Live the Life you Love

One year ago today I lost my best friend and the best Mum that I could have asked for. I was blessed to have her in my life for 38 years, to have her guide and support me and shape me in to the person that I am today. Mum always helped others and put others before herself and delayed many things that she wanted to do. So in her honour and because life is so short I’m going to live life to the fullest and with abandon. Her favourite saying was always ‘Live the Life you Love’. So I will.

So much has happened over this last year that I wish I could talk to Mum about, troubles I wish I could have worked through with her, wonderful new experiences she would be so proud of me and Dad for, watching my nieces grow and flourish, and new friends that I wish she could meet and tell her all about. I know though that she is here within me as she has made me the Woman that I am today. Thank you Mum! Oh and I am finally learning to drive Mum!!!

Mum was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer at the start of 2016 and after a very short and violent battle passed away on the 6th March 2016. To help prevent other families feeling the pain and grief that we did and all too painfully still do, my Dad, my Aunt and my friend Laura are going to be walking Hadrian’s Wall on the 31st May for Cancer Research UK in memory of my Mum. Watching someone suffer like that makes you want to do all that you can to help. We could only be there for Mum in the end so if we can help by raising money to help fight this vile disease then we will be content. We have set ourselves a £4k target and we are already on £3.6k so please help us to reach our target by sponsoring us and by sharing this blog.

Be at peace Mum and your family hopes we make you proud xxx

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A Little Training Walk and Some Light Refreshments – only £500 to go to our Fundraising Target – Help us to help Cancer Research UK

Dad and I finally got together again after our trip to Peru and did a little training walk around Danbury today.

Having not done so much walking since we got back from Peru and as I was heading to Dads for tomorrow for the One Year Anniversary of Mum passing away, we decided we needed to stretch our legs and start getting back in to training. It is only three months until we do our Hardrian’s Wall trek for Cancer Research Uk in memory of Mum, so we have a lot to do!

The walk was a lovely little circuit around the Church and Danbury Country Park. It was quite muddy in places and we had to jump over a little stream but it was nothing in comparison to our trek through the Amazon a couple of weeks ago. We were lucky that the rain broke and held off until we had finished our walk and found shelter in a great little pub.

We had a delicious Sunday lunch at The Cricketers and I think we will be going back there again when we do a longer walk around Danbury next time.

We have raised over £3,500 so far for Cancer Research UK and we only have another £500 to go to our target we have set ourselves. If you want to support us please donate via our just giving page or share this blog to help us gain followers and supporters.
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This early surgery could benefit women – I’m off to Addenbrooks on Monday to start the BRCA1 gene testing process. With extra funding Cancer Rsearch UK could help with so many other ways of testing to help prevent the loss of loved ones to Cancer.

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Walk for Life – Farleigh Hospice – Our First Hadrian’s Wall Training Event


When Mum was told that she would not be receiving chemo for the Ovarian Cancer and that she would be receiving palliative care it was her last wish to make it home for her final days.


When Mum was first diagnosed in January she had to cancel her long-awaited holiday on a cruise ship so she had asked that she could go home and have people visit her in holiday clothes where we could all talk about happier times and see the view from her garden stretching across Roxwell, Chelmsford and to Danbury. We spent quite a few days waiting for a palliative care package to be put together and were so scared that she would not make it home. Unfortunately most of the usual support networks didn’t have anyone free in the Chelmsford area as Mum was at Broomfield Hospital and the waiting list was long. We were desperate to get Mum home and give her the holiday at home that she we had promised her. The hospital ward arranged with the IT department to have a projector bought in to the room and have holiday images put up on to the hospital wall. We are so thankful for that very thoughtful and touching gesture. Everyone who visited had to wear their holiday best. Finally we heard that Mum would be going home and that Farleigh Hospice would be supporting her and providing the care that her and my family so greatly needed.

From the moment we got Mum home she seemed to release so much tension. The support we got from Farleigh hospice was invaluable and without them we would not have got Mum home. My family is so grateful for everything that they did. They do not normally provide at home care but they helped us fulfill my Mums final wish.

When Mum passed away both me and Dad wanted to do something to show our support to Farleigh Hospice. We had already decided we would do the Hadrian’s Wall walk for Cancer Research and wanted to do something in training for it and to support Farleigh Hospice. So when we heard that they were doing a 12k Walk For Life we signed up. Dad had never done anything like it before and hadn’t walked that far for a long time. I have Osteoarthritis in my Knees and both me and my Dad are diabetic. So we started training and building up to their event. Great training for Hadrian’s Wall.



We raised a total of £897.75 for them and completed the walk in great time. I was so proud of my Dad as this was his first fundraising event like this. It was a very emotional day and I was so proud to walk through the finish line holding his hand. I hope that the money we raised helps other families finding themselves in the situation that we did. Thank you Farleigh Hospice.

About Farleigh Hospice:

Farleigh Hospice aims to enable people affected by life limiting illnesses to live as positively and independently as possible. Our work is about supporting patients, their families and carers in a variety of ways. We offer a wide range of services which are all provided entirely free of charge and tailored to meet the individual needs of the patient, and their family.

Patients can call on our services at any stage of their illness and the bereaved can ask for help at any stage of their bereavement.

The majority of our care is provided inside patients’ own homes. Patients and relatives can dip in and out of our services as they need them – as our patients say, ‘help is always just a phone call away‘.

Illness can be stressful and isolating, both for the person themselves and their family. If you have been diagnosed with a life limiting illness, Farleigh Hospice can help. That help includes:

  • Someone to talk to about how you are feeling
  • Someone who can explain about your illness and treatments and answer any questions you may have
  • Welfare Benefits Advice & Support
  • Support and encouragement to live and enjoy your life as much as possible
  • Referral to and liaison with other services you may need, for example, community nursing

Our services are tailored around each individual’s needs and aim to take into account any problems that might be encountered.  You might need support with symptoms, financial advice, equipment to enable you to cope at home or a chance to talk through any fears ~ whatever the problem we are here to help.

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Meet the Team

Let me introduce our team members to you…..


Rosemary Alexander (Mum) 06/07/1954- 06/03/2016


Sarah Alexander (Me) – Walker


Alan Alexander (Dad) – Walker

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June Haynes (my Aunite June – Dad’s Sister) – Walker

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Tim Haynes (my Uncle) – Support Vehicle Driver


Laura Young (my friend) – Walker

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